conscious decision to say this versus “be good”. kids like to do the opposite what their parents say. opposite of wise is stupid.
are you stupid or ignorant? do you know better but do it anyways or do you just not know any better?
why create a habit loop by calling your kid “shy” when they cling to your leg and hide from one of your friends. “oh, she’s just shy”. how many times does that child hears that and acts that when out in public before it gets mapped in the form of neurological patterns (aka, habits). the kid at some point is gonna have to “erase” those tapes and record over them with new, more positive habits (aka, neurological patterns)