When he was in trouble, he got out in front of the bad news and told his coach. “hey coach, Ive got some bad news to share with you. I wanted you to hear it from me first.” pause for effect. “I screwed up, made a bad decision and got caught. now I’m paying the consequence. Nobody’s fault but mine. I wanted you to hear it from me and not someone else. I’ve learned some tough lessons and now It’s chin up and moving on from here.”
If he was pressed for details he’d just say I got caught at a party. No need for anymore details.
For a club coach situation like obrien possibly coming to scout during suspension, after the game if he comes up or calls to find out why Trent wasn’t playing, he say “I had to sit out the game.” Why? “I got caught at a party.” that’s it and move on.