Plumber/golfer and this notebook

Look at this notebook as a tool box or golf bag. For better or worse these are some of the tools mom and I have used thus far to raise a family of boys who are 11, 14 and 18. we set up the tool box first with stuff that worked for us as kids. We left out some tools that didn’t. Then thru trial and error, reading lots of books, going to some seminars and talking with other parents added some more tools and upgraded others. Many times we used the wrong club and hit a bad shot that left both parent and kid in a worse position. Often we went to bed so frustrated; mainly at ourselves if we were honest about it. Sometimes we went to bed thinking it wasn’t pretty but we got the job done. And on some days, they didn’t happen every week or month; but on somedays, one parenting situation went so well, so effortlessly it was magic. Seeing you overcome challenges, try something new and learn a lesson or realize and say this family is awesome, score a goal, start homework and studying early vs last minute, make a sweet pass, box out or score a goal or just have a cool conversation at dinner.

boys we love this game.

body / weight circut

Chin Ups 3 x 10
Push Ups 3 x 20
Jump Squat 3 x10
Body weight Squat 3 x 20
Alternating Lunge 3 x 10 each leg
Rotational Inverted Row 3 x 10
Plank Row 3 x 5 per side
25 yard shuttle 3 x 3 (there and back is 1)

Lax recruit timetable

It’s oct 13, 2011. Coops 2012 university of Michigan recruiting class will go as a team for their official visit on dec 9-11.

UM has almost finished filling their 2013 slots and they even have a few filled for 2014.

Heard OSU has 7-8 offense slots filled.

Current seniors committed for fall 2012 class
Current Juniors committed for fall 2013 class
Current Sophomores already committing for fall 2014 class. Context…they played their freshman year season, as rising sophmores went to summer camps and committed fall of their sophomore year. They have 3 more seasons of HS lax to play before they get to college, play fall ball, do skill development and strength and conditioning over the winter and then see their first NCAA spring lax season in 2015.

It’s fall 2011.

We’ve already begun to see more and more transfers. I sense a possible root cause is 15 and 16 year olds are still maturing academically, athletically and emotionally. It’s hard for them to really know what school, campus community and lax program are going to be the best fit for them. Ditto the NCAA coaches.

It’s just the nature of the beast.

big old goofy world – john prine

Up in the morning
Work like a dog
Is better than sitting
Like a bump on a log
Mind all your manners
Be quiet as a mouse
Some day you’ll own a home
That’s as big as a house

I know a fella
He eats like a horse
Knocks his old balls
Round the old golf course
You oughta see his wife
She’s a cute little dish
She smokes like a chimney
And drinks like a fish

There’s a big old goofy man
Dancing with a big old goofy girl
Ooh baby
It’s a big old goofy world

Now elvis had a woman
With a head like a rock
I wished I had a woman
That made my knees knock
She’d sing like an angel
And eat like a bird
And if I wrote a song
She’d know ever single word

Kiss a little baby
Give the world a smile
If you take an inch
Give ’em back a mile
Cause if you lie like a rug
And you don’t give a damn
You’re never gonna be
As happy as a clam

So I’m sitting in a hotel
Trying to write a song
My head is just as empty
As the day is long
Why it’s clear as a bell
I should have gone to school
I’d be wise as an owl
Stead of stubborn as a mule.

drop the inquisition

mic came home from a long day at school, tests, quizzes and soccer game they lost. ’bout 9pm. i just let him chill and gave him the break he needed after a long day and avoided the inquisitions like “how did you do on your math test.” he decompressed by checking his facebook and fantasy football sites. he checked his grades on progress book and then headed in to the kitchen for some chipotle mom brought home

lax as leverage in admissions

interesting article on the recruited student-athlete leveraging lax at a DI-DIII school in admissions process. “recruited athlete was 30 percentage points more likely to be admitted than a non-athlete.” 
believe it or not, a timely article for our frosh lax boys in laying the groundwork to get the grades and looks that hopefully lead to offers at wonderful schools as rising juniors/juniors. remember all the DI slots were taken as coop ended his rising senior summer and started his senior year. (this email assumes a certain vision to play lax in college which i know not everyone in this email shares).
michael, susan and i are actively blue-skying academically competitive DI-DIII colleges where he can leverage lax to get admitted and possibly earn scholarship cash. (we’ve learned too that with athletic scholarships the financial aid process gets some added nuances.) more to the point, we’ve been actively charting the possible summer lax camps to increase “marketing” visibility and enhance his decision-making process. its different for everyone. we never had coop at a specific college coaches summer lax camp; the carlsons did with alex and it worked extremely well for them at airforce (he was able to compare schools/lax programs/military careers as i believe (not certain on details) he attended summer camps at navy, VMI, army throughout HS)
sidebar: when/if you read the article, they talk about jake reed’s nike blue chip camp. our reality was coop never got an invite BUT, most of the college coaches we spoke with during our process didnt see blue chip camp being as high in value to find recruitable lacrosse players as earlier in its history. why? they shared that more and more of the players attending blue chip these days have already been recruited. so “why go and waste precious time” to discover someone when most have already verbally committed to another school. just the charlton’s experience. as this sport continues exploding, the landscape is constantly changing and figuring out how to navigate from “unknown” to recruited student-laxman is a work in progress.
lastly, this article underscores how lacrosse helped coop get admitted to an extremely competitive school that without lax he wouldn’t not have been admitted to. probably goes w/out saying (hey i’m long-winded) but that shouldn’t obscure the need for very good grades. as the article highlights “there needs to be an upper-tier student or two who balances out the superior lacrosse player who has grades on the lower end of the admissions continuum. Strive to be that player who is offered a slot because of excellent work in the classroom, and a history of A.P., and/or honors classes.” grades/lax as leverage in admissions and cash. in hudson we are very fortunate to have in coach blue, among many other positives, a man and program focusing on grades in a very very big way. each year coach has a student-athlete % goal. he keeps inching it up, too!
i trust the very good grades trend continues with your sons. i remember last spring making the rounds at practice asking as many as i could how things were going in the 8th grade classroom. they replied almost universally with high marks. i smiled again when i saw their names in the hudson hub on the merit or honor rolls!

manage expectations. adjust the peaks. try not to always guess the gift.

larry. yoga. meditation. not talking about lowering quality standards. not talking about settling for less. not talking about looking at life as a half empty glass. adjust the peaks of lofty expectations and your yardstick for measuring lifes joys and less will end up being more. dont fall into trap the trap of leaders are only born not made. mom is a steady eddy. i was born with tendancies that go from low to high with little middle ground. im not a natural at this. learning as i go. as you age, hopefully you mature, or marinate and can go deeper in the pose. its about learning to live more in the moment. be mindful of the past and future. history and mystery. the present is a gift. try not to always guess the gift. then again, there are people because of circumstance, upbringing and lifes experiences that dont like surprises. they try and figure everything out or go the extreme and become pessimists figuring it’ll be bad news so when it isnt ill be happier. thats their strategy for pursuing happiness.

pursuit. journey.

sex like life.

who do you want to win? just wanna see a good game together. consider the timing of this source. late middle age. both of us stressing about money, a house full of kids and ever changing schedules. a hurry up and “get it in” before the lighting delay or storm hits. man biological need and thinking about sex every 3 minutes and kids, mom and then dad’s hierarchy of needs operating within the wife’s brains, heart and soul and you have the recipe for mid life sexual malaise.

manage expectations.