Ok. I was just able to watch… This “nostalgia” is something I deal with on a regular basis — especially now that my kids are flying the nest… Bitter sweet life is.


On Mar 2, 2015, at 3:08 PM,

I was helping our high school senior discover there’s wisdom in packing in as much living as he can in his early years. 

Sidebar: he is deferring college and taking a Gap year 2015-2016. He is working on assembling a broad array of internships, jobs, shadow sessions and volunteer gigs. Being a very young 18 yr old, it has him way outside his comfort zone and he’s a little tentative on saying yes to some new things, people and experiences.

Anyways, “nostalgia” came to mind. My feeble attempt at parenting came up with the more he can pack into these wonder years (14-25 or thereabouts), all the more to dine and wax nostalgic on when he is older (great reruns as it were). This Mad Men scene about the Kodak Carousel proved to be a handy illustrator of the point.

The video clip got me thinking about Robby. Made me think of you guys.

Keep the faith

I remember this wise quote from team 1 days with cooper, mom and me. And it now it helps guide Mic, mom and me on team 2 and eventually max, mom and dad on team 3. When life gets confusing, annoying and overwhelming…..

Trust in the process and keep the faith. The latter being so eloquently conveyed below by MLK.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
– Martin Luther King Jr.

Oh, and be sure each day to laugh your ass off and shred a tear or two (joy or pain doesn’t matter). JimmyV said it best….

“If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that’s a full day. That’s a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you’re going to have something special.”

Love you guys.

Bets – Dad

adolescent brain and addiction

learning and synapse drinking

marijuana has different aspect of the teenage brain than the adult brain

stress…during teen years. Wired up for future life

Pot blocks learning and memory

Silent diseases like depression n addiction get started in adi

full-fledged adulthood mid-thirties

dr yansine. The teenage brain

Synapses being conditioned


In the quote below, if you substitute “young adult” (age 14-25) for “the country”, you have, I believe, a recipe that, if pursued now, will help position each of you for great personal, professional and profitable success as an adult…life at 25 and older. The key is now, between the ages of 14-25, keep trying things, keep experimenting. Keep pushing yourselves outside your current comfort zones.

The country needs, and unless I mistake its temper, the country demands bold, persistent experimentation. It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails admit it frankly and try another. But above all try something.”

another key area to start early on is saving and investing your money. The power of compound interest and divided reinvestment are a couple aspects. Congrats to mic for finally getting grammy to commit and purchase some stock, in this case the pharmaceutical Merck. Consider buying some more stock with the 18th birthday cash.


another perspective on which to marinate. Start with the obvious….you have a little bit of mom and a little bit of me in you.

on the whole i’ve never been much of a joiner. fraternities and clubs and associations are not really my scene…though I’ve been a member from time to time. i know myself well, though…i enjoy my solitary time but know when to step up and play the social game. i can make folks feel special and comfortable and be very engaging and fun to be around.

that said, i do spend a bunch of time in my own head. its where im most comfortable (other than with the four of you). i can while away the hours so contentedly thinking about all sorts of stuff. thinking, reading, thinking, writing down lists, drawing things.

i’m coming to my point… “love” is different at 51 than it was for me at 18, my identity to myself is different, too. as time marches on the adventures, activities and things done in youth take on an even greater color and importance for me. they become even more special and treasured memories and reflections of myself. Nostalgia.

a natural thing that happens to all humans as we age is we find ourselves yearning, longing for our youth….there’s a great Mad Men scene when don draper is selling the vision for a new ad campaign for the brand new piece of technology – the kodak carousel project – that scene speaks beautifully to this point that things done in youth take on even richer hues as you age. Nostalgia. thats why you want to pack as much living and experiences into your youth and young adulthood (14-25). You (and your spoyse and kuds) will “dine” on those memories the rest of your life

here’s my share: one thing i like about history is i played competitive sports in high school and college. i like how it helps define me as an athlete even when im too creaky to actively take the field. my regret is i didnt fully leverage my natural talents to work even harder to achieve even more leverage and success. but hey, thats a lesson learned. all the dad’s and all the moms who played sports share this same connection, feeling and powerful, healthy identity. we are all grateful that we played sports in college. again nostalgia.

connecting the dots: since we are related by blood and you have so many other relatives’ athletic and competitive dna coursing through you (grammy drohan for sure), please reconsider your decision not to play lacrosse in college…at least use it as leverage to get into a really great school for pre-med and then if it does indeed get in the way of studies, you can pull a Moose, like coop’s roommate at Michigan did.


Heres a link to the mad men scene video